9th October 2017
Learning new things, getting used to new surroundings and making new friends can make starting university a challenging time. Add to this the word of university dating and it is easy to feel somewhat overwhelmed! But fear not, here we look at the truth about university dating and tips that could keep any potential heartache or humiliation to a minimum.
- Know The Labels – We have all heard people say they are ‘Having a thing’, ‘Hanging out’, ‘Seeing each other’ etc but none of these terms mean you are actually in a relationship. Until you step out of that grey area and both agree that you are in an exclusive relationship, the chances are you are nothing more than two people having a fling. If someone is referring to what you have with them in any of these ambiguous ways then they are likely declaring you are still free agents.
- Don’t Expect The Full Works – While we all like the idea of being whisked away and wined and dined, most students are living on a fairly tight budget therefore a candlelit meal in a posh restaurant or drinks at a trendy wine bar may not be realistic expectations. This doesn’t mean you can’t have nice dates, you just need to be a little more creative.
- One Intimate Event Doesn’t Mean Wedding Bells – You have a connection, a spark like no other, you had an amazing, fun night together – now what? Well this doesn’t always mean you are a couple. University is about being carefree, having fun and experimenting for a lot of people. Try to refrain from declaring yourself off the shelf after one night of passion. Make sure you are on the same page, if you both want a bit of fun then it is unlikely you will get hurt. Do not go with a known player and wonder why they are not changing their online status to ‘In a relationship’.
- Do Not Read Too Much Into things – If you like someone and they are flirting, great! Maybe you have even had a kiss or a date. Just be sure to know the difference between “I’ll see you around” and “let’s go on a date”. You don’t want to feel silly for misunderstanding or putting too much weight on things.
- All is far in love and war (At Uni) – University dating has a different set of rules and generally looser morals than that of regular dating. Try not to be disheartened and take it all in your stride. After all, it all makes for experience and if you can have an easy-going attitude you will have more fun and avoid potentially humiliating situations. Besides, you may not remember the person’s name in a few years’ time!